high school drop out, 4 children, 1 and a half cars, 1 house, 1 mom, 1 dad, 1 job, yep.

Yes I know how babies are made, and yes I know how expensive they are. If you remember, I'm the one that just commented on how many I have.

Why is it that people have to share their thoughts as if there is no way they could possibly be restrained from doing so. I mean, it's like an automatic knee jerk reaction. First there's shock, then that's followed by dis-belief, leading into either disgust or confusion. That's when the annoying monologue's start. People assume that we have no idea what we're doing and say things like "how are you ever going to pay for their college" or "you may like it now, but wait until they're all teenagers and hate you", you know, comments that were never invited or requested. Getting onto that part, where do people get off believing they have the right to instruct me on how to manage my family. One time I had a supervisor at my work tell me "you need to get your wife fixed." This is all in reaction to the size of my family, the real amazement comes when they start telling me it's not possible to have such a large family one income. You should here the fun when they find out I don't even want my children to go to college let alone pay their way.

Today I was told how lucky I am that my wife is able to stay home with our children. That person was wrong. First I don't believe in luck and second she has it backwards. If I did believe in luck I would have to say I'm "lucky" that I have a wife that is dedicated to staying home and not desirous to leave the home and go to some unfulfilling job. My wife is just as dedicated to staying home and raising the children God gave us as I am to seeing she not be burdened with monetary issues. By the way, the word luck implies that things simply worked out the way we wanted and there was no planning or sacrifice to be made on our part. The bottom line is that we make choices everyday. Choices that many times have lasting effects on our lives, and the lives of possibly many others. We made a choice when we were first married that material things such as fancy cars, nice homes, and anything else that will burn after the Lord returns will add no value to our children's lives if they were achieved by our children being raised by some day care or school teacher. We needed a car, we bought what we could afford. We needed a home, we bought what we could afford. There are needs in this world and there are wants. For some reason we in America generally can't tell the difference. A family member of mine once told my wife that they were trying to pay off the debt they were drowning in from when they first got married. The saddest part came when she admitted that they couldn't afford they're lifestyle at first so they had to use credit cards to maintain their image. Never was the possibility of living within they're means a viable option.


A boy can be the father of many kids, a girl can be their mother and stay home with those kids. But a family is started by a man and a woman that become husband and wife. None of that is impressive, but it is the fact, a fact that today is both being forgotten and misconstrued. We as Americans have the ability and protection to have a baby on the sightest of whims or kill the child of inconvienence. Love cannot be legislated, love cannot be dictated, and a home without it is worthless no matter how many or few that house contains. When we as a society love only ourselves we can expect nothing less than selfish unloving people raising worse monsters than we have become ourselves. We have children because we love them and see them as the absolute blessing that the Lord Jesus says they are. My wife stays home with them because the Lord has given us the responsibility to raise these precious people, not something to be handed over to the world.