Why we will have a large family.

We desire a large family. When bringing this up to just about any one, the eye's enlarge, the mouth starts to sag and the smoke pouring out of their ears brings the all too familiar response "you have 4 kids, you already have a huge family!" Again, I know how many children we have and we're all the more determined to one day embrace having a large family. Dis-belief is something I'm now used to encountering when speaking my mind in any public place. However, it's the not so public arena's that shock me most. My own mother, desperate to protect and guide me from ruining my life, begged to pay for birth control after our wedding rehearsal dinner! Convinced of the "fact" that we would be utterly destitute due to the deplorable naive and or foolish choice's we would soon walk out. Finally, aware of my stubbornness and unwillingness to bow to her wishes, she and the rest of my family took to a new road of personal redemption, they would wait for the fulfilling day of "I told you so". Five and a half years and 4 children later I find, they were right. We were naive and maybe even a little foolish. We had no idea of the joy's, fulfilment, and immense satisfaction that trusting the Lord for our family could possibly bring. When my wife and I were unifying our hearts for our new life we had some great idea's and some misunderstandings. We came to grips with what we believe to be true for every believer, for those who are without knowledge, and even for us. Children are a blessing and every believer should be delighted in them and understand when the Lord says they are his blessing's to us we should not have heart's that say "we don't want that blessing Lord, give us something else." We must embrace the fact that he is the Lord! He does know what he's talking about. For those without understanding we must stand strong and walk out our lives pitying them for what they are missing out on. Now on to what is right for us. Psalm 37:4,5 says "Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord: trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass."

It's pretty simple, delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. If you are delighting yourself in the Lord than your desires will be molded into what he would have you to pursue. His desires will be upon your heart and he will grant them in his will for your life. Commit thy way unto the Lord: trust also in him, and he shall bring it to pass. Trust him for those things he has spoken into your life and you can and will walk in confidence of those treasures. The Lord has given us a desire for a large family, we trust this is his will and we relish all that it entails. Gleefully we walk on knowing, we will have a large family.

Why those who say they'd like their wive's to stay home some day, never will.

Quit lying to me and just do what you want, or change what you really want and do what you're telling me you want to do. Too often today we say things we don't really mean. We know what is right, so we give lip service to it knowing it is the "ideal" situation but never expecting it to come to reality. We understand the sacrifices those things require and quite frankly are unwilling to take them. The reason your unwilling to take any sacrifices is because your selfish.
Our culture has taught us some things that are just plain stupid. We are told to take care of our self, make sure and have time for your self, make sure we all have good self esteem. Take pride in your self, only do what feels good to you.
Today people have become self-centered and ignorant. Being conformed to the culture of this day, rather than being transformed into the everlasting unchanging word of God. You think I'm harsh saying this? Lets look at the definition's of these 2 words.

Self-centered: Occupied or concerned only with one's own affairs; egocentric; selfish.

Ignorant: from ignore: To disregard deliberately; pay no attention to; refuse to consider.

If your wife has to leave home to pay your mortgage, 1 or 2 car payments, for childcare, for vacations, or just to "make it" then your priorities are seriously messed up and are detrimental to your entire family. Your house is going to burn, your cars will rust, your children will be raised by strangers and a vacation can be forgot in a moment, but your children will never forget mom being there through thick and thin for every scrape and every tear of anguish or joy.

I remember every house I've ever lived in and every car and vacation I've been privy to. Some big, some small. Some fancy, and some not, but my memories are all about experiences growing up. The every day affairs are what I think about most, not about how nice the "things" were.
But I don't need to convince you why your wife should stay home because you already know I'm right. So lets get down to some practical solutions to your situations.

Your mortgage is too big for your income:
Sell your home and move into one you can afford.

There isn't any affordable home's in your town:
Move out of the area. What's more important, your town, or your children?

Your car payments are too high:
Sell your car or pay it off.

Your credit card bills are too high:
Consolidate your cards and pay them off and remove them from your wallet.

Your lifestyle is too expensive for your income:
It's time to change your lifestyle and work out a new budget.

Here is very basic skeleton for an example:

Of what I receive from my monthly paycheck these are the general percentages;

10% To the Lord (although it is not law, I see it as a good principle)
30% Mortgage/insurance/taxes
15% Food bill
7.5% Fuel Bill (I commute about 70 miles a day)
4% Car Insurance
3.5% Cell Phones (no land lines)
3.5% Natural Gas Bill
3.5% Power Bill

Most of these above are approximates since they can change a bit month to month. But still these are my bill's and they leave about 23% of my income left for various things.

My children are full, they are clothed well. We are satisfied with what the Lord has provided for us and we are thrilled to show others how rewarding it is to believe that Jesus doesknow what he was saying when he tells us what to do and then says trust me.

A man I respect once told me that "you can never expect to do tomorrow what your not doing today". That has stuck with me for years now. If you won't take the first step to bringing your wife home today, then don't tell me you will some day. The time has come to decide, fancy lifestyle or obedience, either way, stop lying to me.